9 traits of a life giving marriage- book review

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9 traits of a life giving marriage- book review

I recently had the opportunity to review a book, called 9 Traits of a Life Giving Marriage, by Sue Detweiler.  I thought the title was perfect- as the book really did deliver on its' promise. 9 Traits of a Life Giving Marriage was a straightforward and honest look at what it takes for a Christian marriage to thrive.  I appreciated the vulnerability shown throughout the pages, along with Sue's willingness to share personal stories from her own marriage- the good and the bad.  We can learn from each other, and this book had the tone of a wise, older sister, sharing her wisdom out of love, with a desire to see marriages succeed.  

The 9 traits outlined in the book are:   

Trait #1 – Acceptance

Acceptance is a conscious choice to receive your spouse as God made him or her.


Trait # 2 Friendship

Make time in your marriage for friendship! Go out and have fun! Create positive, life-giving moments spending time together as best friends.   


Trait # 3 Safety

To experience intimacy in marriage, both partners need to feel safe, secure and cherished.


Trait # 4 Honesty

Ground Rules for Honesty in A Marriage

1. Watch your Words

2. Listen Attentively

3. Speak Honestly

4. Keep a Positive Perspective


Trait # 5 Intimacy

Intimacy flourishes in an environment of love and respect; it shrinks in a power struggle.


Trait # 6 Passion

What you experience in the physical realm of your relationship will impact your emotional and spiritual relationship. 


Trait # 7 Endurance

During stressful times and the storms of life, you must anchor your marriage and faith on Jesus Christ.


Trait # 8 Restoration

Grace is the balm that brings healing from the imperfections each spouse brings to marriage. Cultivate Truth, Grace and Forgiveness towards one another.


Trait # 9 Expectancy

Spend time in the word to ensure your expectations are anchored firmly in Christ, not on your spouse's actions, words or behavior

9 traits of a life giving marriage- book review

Each trait has a chapter devoted to explaining the why and how behind it, with practical applications and stories from Sue's own marriage to illustrate.  Each chapter closes with a prayer for your marriage.  This is a book that acknowledges the need for Christ to be the center of a life- filled marriage.   I would recommend this book to newly married couples, as well as those married for many years, healthy marriages, and those that are struggling.  

9 traits of a life giving marriage-book review

Is It Possible to Enjoy a Strong and Healthy Marriage- -Till Death Do Us Part? Yes . . . with God!

 Sue Detweiler’s new book, 9 Traits of a Life-Giving Marriage, will help you:

*Heal the broken places in your marriage
*Strengthen your relationship with your spouse
*Understand God's plan for your marriage
*Revive your relationship with God's transformative power 

I was given a copy of the book to read for review purposes, but all opinions are my own.  

This book officially releases on October 23 and is available for pre-order now.  If you pre-order a copy by October 22nd, through Sue's website,  you will also receive 5 free gifts:  
1. Printables of 9 Traits
2. Printables of Prayers
3. MP3 of Healing Rain
4. PDF copy of 9 Traits of a Life Giving Mom
5. $50 Voucher Towards the 2016 Marriage Conference in Dallas, TX you would like to 

Also join Sue on October 22, 2015 at 8:00 PM CST for a Live Author Chat on Facebook for book discussion, fun and lots of giveaways! You can RSVP HERE!